A wise one once said....you don't change your life, you create it.So I have a question for you love...are you reacting towards the frustrations and hurdles life is throwing at you or are you taking them all and creating a beautiful something out of them? The latter is always more pleasurable of course because why not? You have the power, you have the moment, you have the magic wand to create whatever you want out of it.
What do you do? Seperate your essential self, your emotional self from the others.Get into the core of who you are and what you really enjoy doing, what you're capable of, what you want, what you love.... and own it with full grasp. Without fear of "what our family, peer group, or that little voice" will think. Now this is may be difficult in the beginning, but when you really think about it... is conforming and creating a life based on someone else's beliefs making you happy right now? Or are you desiring freedom from it.